My Mother’s Day Gift

Today, people all across America are celebrating Mother’s Day. Daughters and sons are bestowing gifts of love, appreciation and gratefulness upon their mothers in the form of flowers, cards and hugs. Husbands are showering their wives with jewelry, dinners and spa days for bringing their offspring into the world.

This year, I’ve decided to give myself a gift—the gift of permission.

I’m giving myself permission to…
…not be “pinterest perfect.”
…say no.
…not do it all.
…to parent from my strengths, not my weaknesses.
…be the mother that I am, not the mother people expect me to be.
…admit that I don’t have it all figured out, and likely never will.

I hope this Mother’s Day is filled with grace, hope, love and freedom for moms everywhere.

Happy Mother’s Day!

Feelings vs. Actions

It’s okay to feel sad.
It’s okay to feel angry.
It’s okay to feel jealous.
It’s okay to feel frustrated.
It’s okay to feel lonely.
It’s okay to feel insecure.
It’s okay to feel anxious.
It’s okay to feel scared.

There are no wrong feelings. There are, however, wrong actions.

We cannot control our feelings, but we CAN control our actions.

Maturity is doing the right thing despite how we feel.

Maturity is doing the right thing despite how we feel.

Copying gets a bad rap. Not all copying is bad.

Copying test answers? Bad.
Copying kindness? Good.
Copying swear words? Bad.
Copying healthy eating habits? Good.

Everyone copies. That’s how we learn.

I copy and so does my daughter. KidFish copies my words, my mannerisms, even my laugh. Unfortunately, she also copies things like talking with her mouth full and picking fries instead of vegetables.

Although I can’t control WHAT KidFish copies, I CAN give her plenty of opportunities to copy good behavior.

Want KidFish to be polite? Be polite.
Want KidFish to be generous? Be generous.
Want KidFish to stop watching so much TV? Stop watching so much TV.
Want KidFish to be patient? Be patient.

It’s not always that simple or easy, but it’s a good place to start.

Kids do what we do

I’ve always wanted to play the piano, so I finally did something about it and took a few beginner piano lessons. As I plunked away on those black and white keys, sometimes it sounded beautiful and sometimes it sounded awful. And I’m okay with that. Do you know why? Because “I’m learning.”

It’s okay if I make mistakes, because…I’m learning.

It’s okay to do things over and over again, because…I’m learning.

It’s okay to ask questions and get help, because…I’m learning.

That’s when I realized the freedom those two little words bring and the pressure that’s released when I utter the phrase “I’m learning.”

Now I apply those two words to everything…work, people, money, marriage, parenting, etc. I’m still learning in all those areas, and I bet you are too. So, the next time you make a mistake, remind yourself that you’re still learning and keep going.

I'm learning.

7 days of single-tasking

I’m finally ready to admit it. I am not good at multi-tasking. For years, I told myself (and others) that I was good at it. I even took pride in my ability to do many things at the same time.

But, after giving birth, I came down with a terrible case of Mom-nesia. I couldn’t remember simple things, like how old I was or where I left my keys.

The Challenge:
Stop multi-tasking and start single-tasking

For my first challenge, it seemed appropriate to spend 7 days with a single focus. What better way, than to single-task?

What would life be like if I was fully engaged in the task at hand instead of managing multiple things at once?

Could I still accomplish everything that needed to be done?

Would I enjoy life more?

Continue Reading…

Time for Change

7DaysOfChallenge

I am a creature of habit.

I drive the same routes. I eat at the same restaurants. I order the same food. I wear the same outfits. And I’m fine with it.

In fact, I like it.

But recently, something in me yearns for growth.

Growth doesn’t come from maintaining the status quo. Growth comes from trying new things, experiencing new challenges and understanding new insights. So in the spirit of my instagram, (everyday life from a new perspective) I created the “7 Days of…Challenge.”

It’s simple. 7 days of doing something differently than I do it now. (i.e. 7 days of waking up early, 7 days of cooking dinner, 7 days of adventure.) After I finish the challenge, I’ll write about how it went and what I learned.

Why 7 days? Is it because it’s the number of completion? Is it because it’s lucky?

Not really.

Mostly because it’s less than 30 days and more than 0. I’ve always been better at sprints than at marathons. I can do 7 days.

On March 4th (get it? march forth…I couldn’t resist the pun) I’ll be posting the results from my first “7 Days of…Challenge!”

If you’re up for it, join with me!

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