Kids drop things. Kids spill things. Kids break things. It can be very frustrating, especially when they do all three on the same day. But, remember, adults drop, spill and break things too. Sometimes we even manage to do all three at the same time!
The next time KidFish drops, spills, or breaks something, do this: take a deep breath and remind myself that kids are just like adults, only smaller. That means responding to the situation the same way I would respond to an adult…with grace, understanding and a helping hand.
Today, people all across America are celebrating Mother’s Day. Daughters and sons are bestowing gifts of love, appreciation and gratefulness upon their mothers in the form of flowers, cards and hugs. Husbands are showering their wives with jewelry, dinners and spa days for bringing their offspring into the world.
This year, I’ve decided to give myself a gift—the gift of permission.
I’m giving myself permission to…
…not be “pinterest perfect.”
…not do it all.
…to parent from my strengths, not my weaknesses.
…be the mother that I am, not the mother people expect me to be.
…admit that I don’t have it all figured out, and likely never will.
I hope this Mother’s Day is filled with grace, hope, love and freedom for moms everywhere.
Happy Mother’s Day!
Today I will be kind to KidFish.
Today I will be gentle with KidFish.
Today I will express my love for KidFish.
Today I will laugh with KidFish.
Today I will dance with KidFish.
Today I will speak the truth in love to KidFish.
Today I will encourage KidFish.
Today I will be gracious to KidFish.
For I know that how I treat KidFish today affects how KidFish will treat me (and others) tomorrow.
Telling a crying child to “stop crying” only makes him/her cry more. Yelling it out of frustration or anger is even worse. (I know. I’ve tried.)
This works: gentleness, compassion and understanding. Hugs work. Prayer works. Acknowledging the pain works. Listening works. Fresh air works.
I’ll remember this the next time I need to comfort a crying child.
It’s okay to feel sad.
It’s okay to feel angry.
It’s okay to feel jealous.
It’s okay to feel frustrated.
It’s okay to feel lonely.
It’s okay to feel insecure.
It’s okay to feel anxious.
It’s okay to feel scared.
There are no wrong feelings. There are, however, wrong actions.
We cannot control our feelings, but we CAN control our actions.
Maturity is doing the right thing despite how we feel.
I’ve always wanted to play the piano, so I finally did something about it and took a few beginner piano lessons. As I plunked away on those black and white keys, sometimes it sounded beautiful and sometimes it sounded awful. And I’m okay with that. Do you know why? Because “I’m learning.”
It’s okay if I make mistakes, because…I’m learning.
It’s okay to do things over and over again, because…I’m learning.
It’s okay to ask questions and get help, because…I’m learning.
That’s when I realized the freedom those two little words bring and the pressure that’s released when I utter the phrase “I’m learning.”
Now I apply those two words to everything…work, people, money, marriage, parenting, etc. I’m still learning in all those areas, and I bet you are too. So, the next time you make a mistake, remind yourself that you’re still learning and keep going.
Right now I am impatient, prideful and stubborn. Right now I am insecure, selfish and controlling.
This is who I am today, but not who I ultimately want to be.
I have a picture in my mind of the future me. It’s a picture of a kind old woman whose spent a lifetime being moved by the Holy Spirit. One whose rough edges have been softened by a loving, forgiving and gracious God. One who looks a lot more like Jesus than the one who exists today.
I see myself as a gentle, yet strong old woman. My eyes will be wrinkled from years of joy and laughter. My hands will be tired from a life spent in service to others. My belly will be soft, squishy and perfect for cuddling and comforting little children. My steps will be slow and steady because I’ll have figured out that most things just aren’t that big of a deal. My lips will overflow with love and encouragement. My heart will be filled with grace and compassion for others.
Most importantly, I’ll to be a woman whose inner beauty overwhelms my physical appearance.
I am not yet who I wish to be and that is okay because God has shown me a picture of who I will become if I continue to walk faithfully with Him.